Do you say "ask" or "ax?" Those who use the latter may have been corrected or shamed out of using it by an elder or teacher. But linguistic history proves there's nothing wrong with "ax."
When the "s" and "k" are switched in "ask" and pronounced as "ax" or "aks," it is a normal process that linguists call metathesis. Language changes over time, and many of today’s words were pronounced differently in the past. A few centuries ago, for example, "wasp" sounded more like "waps."
For decades, the “ax” pronunciation was widely used in New England, the middle states, and the South. Many enslaved people absorbed their speech patterns from white indentured servants who once heavily used “ax.” It wasn't until the late 19th century that it became a stereotype attached to Black English speakers. Some linguists consider "ax" (or "aks") an integral part of Black American culture.
Anti-Black folks seek to correct our speech to make us feel uneducated and inferior. But we speak a dialect different from standard English speakers, and it's never been inherently wrong.
We don't have to hide who we are to please anyone. Let's let go of that idea completely. Keep on “axing” or “asking” as you please.