There’s a popular narrative about Black love: Black men simply aren’t interested in Black women, and they “marry out” at twice the rate of Black women! But wait a second. Is this even true?
Not at all! There’s so much nuance with our relationships. Black women are not only INCORRECTLY taught that “good” Black men are hard to find, but that Black men are likely not interested in them in the first place.
But what about those studies relationship experts keep citing?
They’re incorrect, too! They were conducted by mostly white researchers. When Black researchers examined them, they found major mistakes.
For example, they include everyone over 18 when they claim Black women don’t get married! When you look at the 35 and older crowd, the numbers change DRAMATICALLY. Some of the statistics even had no source – they were made up!
Black people of all genders face challenges when it comes to finding a mate, from white beauty standards to fetishization. And that’s not even taking into account how racist policing and mass incarceration affect Black families.
Myths about how Black men don’t want Black women are NOT helping!
Black love has always been under attack by white supremacy, and lies have been embedded in our understanding of relationships. We have some advice of our own: love whoever your heart leads you to, and ignore the lies!